Author: Cheryl Ilov

Episode #171: The Journey Starts with You with Krisztian Riez

Krisztian Riez is the founder and owner of Mind Bloome, a platform and community for anyone suffering with mental health issues. Like many people, Kris suffered from mental health issues for many years until he developed new skills and behaviors that dealt with addressing the core root of his trauma and mental health challenges.

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Episode #170: Four Requisites for Change with Anne Martin

Anne Martin is the founder and owner of the Empowered Leadership Movement, which helps people improve the quality of every aspect of their lives. She is also a power partner of Mountain Mind Tricks, a resource which helps wildland firefighters improve their physical, mental, and emotional health. Anne is also a former first responder who neglected her own physical and mental health to focus on her service as a public service.  

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Episode #169: When Life Throws You Curve Balls with Rhonda Bolich-Lampos

Rhonda Bolich-Lampo is a Wellness and Lifestyle Coach, speaker, author, and body reset coach. Her book is titled God Winks and Miracles Happen: A Story About Love, Faith, and Hope. She also has an eBook titled How to Protect Your Assets, Including Health, Life, and Business. Rhonda also has a signature talk titled How to Handle a Detour in Life, where she educates and inspires her audiences to be proactive and to prevent costly mistakes when life throws you curve balls.

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Episode #168: Breaking Free from Therapist Abuse with Amy Nordhues

Amy Nordhues is a writer, author, speaker, and married mother of three. She is also a survivor of both sexual abuse as a child and as an adult at the hands of a mental health professional. Her recently released memoir has already earned an award as well as rave reviews.

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Episode #166: Your Past Does Not Define You with Amanda Acker

Amanda Acker is a transformational coach, speaker, podcast host, and formerly incarcerated person. Amanda was riddled with shame, confusion, insecurity, inadequacy, and feeling unloved and unworthy when her mother walked away from her family home when Amanda was 15.

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The Power of Shame

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Ahhh, the power of shame. This is a subject covered in Episode #165 with mental health professional Katie Gilbertson. It’s an important topic, because the power of shame is something most of us are all too familiar with. But shame can wreak havoc on our self-esteem, and ruin our relationships. Especially the most important and valuable relationship we have in all the world, which is the relationship with ourselves.

Our self-image, self-confidence, and personal power is slowly chipped away every time we feel shame. I call it “chronic shame syndrome.” Because every time we feel ashamed of ourselves, our brain registers it deep in the recesses of our neural circuits. The circuits are reinforced, making them stronger with each message of shame it receives. Eventually, shame is the only thing we know, and it can permeate every aspect of our lives. And not in a good way.

However, there’s a glimmer of hope, even if you are wallowing in chronic shame syndrome. Simply turn the script around. Each time that pesky shame monster rears its ugly head, give it a clear and powerful message that it is not welcome. Remind yourself that you are worthy of respect, civility, courtesy, and appreciation. Those neural circuits will get the message, and with time will reverse the belief system that you deserve to live under the mantle of shame, and shame will no longer have power over you. And isn’t that a much better way to live?

 

Bonus Episode #4: The Art of Compassion with Cheryl Nifoussi

Cheryl Nifoussi is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker who is also certified in psychoanalysis as well as marriage and family therapy. She is also the author of the newly released book “Feelings Are Friends,” a book focused on school age children and their care givers which teaches kids compassion, problem solving, and decision making.

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